There's no way there are unreasonable desperation, if there is desperation that means you're not interacting reasonably to your surroundings.You may feel confidence, but confidence does not guarantee sense of belonging. And usually the lack of sense of belonging contribute into the desperation.
Some people feel fulfillness with materials, some people fulfill from pure enjoyments. Some people can live, work and socialise with the same people. It is a blessing if someone can enjoy such compacted dynamics if these dynamics are real. But if there's any lingering desperation, it is time to keep a small distance, from 1 of the thing no matter how good it should feel in theory.
Wicked realised her struggle before was a fear of making her life 1 dimensional, she didn't know if she likes her job, same group of friends or the same career she was so desperately trying to shake things up by whipping up a storm of spells which almost cost her life. If she did not expose the situation in time to Caurora and Mulan, and later RoAriel, they won't be able to reverse those spells with the most powerful solution, friendhsip.
Once the storm starts to settle she can really focus on what she really wants. She don't want to be 1 dimensional, doesn't mean she can't be good at her job, (perhaps) good to the bitches and anchor back to her future career plan.
It is still a long way to go, the glass is half full or half empty is a choice...
