Do you know the word "antagonist" came from Greek word for "rival"?
If it is simply an rivalry to begin with, "villain" or "hero" might just be words after all.
In relationships: romantic, family, friends or even workmates, sometimes, it is only the way we see things and the side that we take manipulated the way we see people.
We all born to judge, everyday as we walk pass a person, we unintentionally think if that is a good person, bad person, person to fuck, person to bully, person to be charity towards (and that includes charity cases)...
Who wouldn't want a tall good-looking, V shaped bodied alpha male with a kind heart as your hero? If luck is on your side, you may be able to find such person to fit into this bracket, you tended not to try to loose him, even if there is no romantic involvment; even if he has not much in common with you, even to be just a distant friend - as long as somehow there's someone to fill the role as your hero, you'd feel fine.
Are we all a bit too self-amusing from time to time? Do we all just trying to fulfill a fantasy? Are we in fact projecting an image over an innocent person whom we just didn't know too well?
There's 2 faces of a coin, can we see people that we don't like simply because such person can fit into our definition of villains? We're not talking about villains who wants to blow up the planet or making money out of 3rd world child labour. We are talking about those we seen as just-never-got-along-with.
Let's face it. When a person who we just-never-got-along-with done something that looks bad, we usually pour in our nastiest opinion without really considering the cause of being? Especially in relationships, there're so many margins and way to say what is right or wrong, and the word "right" or "wrong" can be fluid. Which way is better? The person who do the right thing for the wrong reason and look good; or the one who do the wrong thing for the right reason but look bad? Can the later commit such act knowing by doing wrong now can ultimately provide the end result of beneficialised future? Can the heroic sweet taste for now cause a future result of dead end or worse disaster than the one which was overcame?
Wicked had been asked which way would she choose, she would rather do the wrong thing for the right reason. "If i become a villain, then so be it." Better than when "hero-falls" as someone had done what is theoretically good but leading to even bigger disaster ahead - become a chance for all drama-hungry people to ask "What happened?" In fact most of these people are more amused by comparing the successful past than the failure present - you can find lots of example in present popular culture.
At least by being the bad guy for now you know there's a good chance things will be forced to go well in the future; and if you managed to fought off those silly people who tries to be heroic, there's a good chance for a long term success.
Wicked is happy to be wicked, because from an early age, she managed to locate her true friends and who means well and knows her well.
In a relationship a villain usually are not the person who just want to fuck up the world, only the person who see things a bit differently and has fewer people taking his/her side. Caurora was once seen as a villain but that incident woken her up from what it means to be in a relationship and found deeper meaning with Caffine.
Hero usually surrounded by a group of supporters, but unfortunately these supporter were mostly made out of unintelligent sheep who are happy to go whichever way the crowd goes, many would not know who the hero is, isn't it better to be surrounded by people who knows the authentic you?
And most importantly, if you know yourself and comfortable being yourself. Would you care so much about how people sees you?
