True Friendship Never Go Out of Style

(True Friendship never go out of style Part 3)

Some argues life of a woman would had started as part of a homosocial all-female gang in the teens and 20s, such gang dissolves during late 20s because of advancing careers or family.

Slow White experience a crazy 2 years of wedding ceremony and pregnancy immediately after, such rollercoaster ride turned her into a different person. 10 years ago she is a socially strong university first year student who everyone hang out with, now she can only think of the baby who is weeks away from popping out from her vigina. She enjoys the side benefit that her boobs gotten bigger; in contrast she lost most of the friends and her friendship with Bellinda and Cindifella appears to be dissolving.

Slow is not the only bitch experiencing such life shift, in fact, most women would have similar experiences in such age.

Firstly, 10 years can be a lot of space for changes: the care-free early 20s was sure fun. However, it was also a time for one to discover oneself, it is possible that one may have more friends during such period, but these are not necessarily true friends; in the late 20s onwards, most of us would be able to identify ourselves and find similar people to share deeper things with. Those who hung out with Slow 10 years ago were friends to go eating or drinking with, did they give a shit other than what they're eating or drinking? Even Slow herself didn't bother to find out. True friendship requires quality, not quantity.

It is a social convention projected to people in the 20s to settle down, get married and have babies with a house and a pet and etc etc; recreating what we experience, saw, read or heard from family, neighbours, other people or media or the culture that we are exposed to. One may think this is part of growing up, however, all these process are more like the formality of growing up instead of actual growth - the essence of growth is different for everyone, but reproducing only evidenced that one is a primate, an evidence of physical maturity, but human are much more than just the physical body. And because everyone's definition on the essence of growing up/growth is different - we tend to sync better with those who believe the same or at least similar, perhaps we can say, we want to find people who look for similar and have similar wavelengths.

Wicked knows her friendship with Mulan, Caurora, John-asmine and RoAriel is different from other friendship between women they knew, they know that they are more complicated and always trying to look for more in life and all forms of relationships. They are not trying to become scientists in relationships but they just want to find a way to write their own rules in life and accepted the fact that if it turns out to be unconventional, then so be it. They would be happy as long as it works for their own life, and hopefully, to find a companion that can share their individual rules. To these bitches, they are lucky that they found each other - To women with more conventional ideas the bitches may come off weird or simply looking for trouble, the bitches have nothing against them - because we are all free to live our lives their own ways.

Which is perhaps what is lacked between the bitches with Peterhontas, especially Wicked and Peterhontas. Wicked is looking for something so deep and disregard formality whereas Peterhontas focus on conventions and always try to be good. Wicked know Peterhontas is a good woman and she wish her well, but they know they are just too different to be quality friends to each other. You can't have everything but if you're happy with everything you got, that's another good start (previous episode)

Maybe one day Slow, Bell and Cindi will rediscover their friendship; and Peterhontas will be close to the bitches again, only time can tell.

Friendships are not indestructible, but if you handle yours with a bit of believe and respect,it can go far. Which is why, true friendship never go out of style.