(True Friendship never go out of style. part 1)
New friends, the new to the mix, a breath of fresh air: sometime people resist new friend to a group, sometime they are warm welcomed. As we get older we find more solid ways to identify ourselves, and as we solidify the way we define ourselves we start putting our friends against these identifications or definitions, usually they fit (because we grow with our friends, its very possible to share some elements as we grow), once such process take place, it'd be harder for a new friend to fit into a now tougher rules, at least for most people.
However the process of growth is a flux, as we get older our view point or goal may shift and hence the existing friends may look at things differently from each other and their priority may be anchored into different directions. Slow White is about to give birth to her first child, she feel more connected to new pregnant friends over the old friends, especially when it comes to sharing this experience - it seems like she unintentionally decided to devote her life to the pregnancy and the child to come, thus feel less connected to her existing female friends - sounds a bit sad, isn't it?
John-asmine developed her passion for fashion and considering moving to Europe to pursue this as her career; and since her broken engagement she spent lot more time with other friends who experienced recent heartbreaks, does that mean she is forming her own group of fashion amused heart broken women away from the bitches?
Wicked is always socially slutty and she's always happy to socialise with different groups: the bitches; professional friends; friends to go to openings; creative friends; uni old friends, etc etc etc... Once John-asmine complimented Wicked as "the Socialite". Would it be possible that John-asmine is trying to develop her much neglected social life (result of her previous relationship) and wanting to be a socially stronger person? Mind you she is still organising all the bitches to watch SATC2, if the bitches are not important she wouldn't be making such effort.
When RoAriel join the bitches, FTB already have 4 (Wicked, Mulan, Caurora & John-asmine) to their SATC fantasy, but because they got along well, so the number didn't matter.
Mulan had been dating a virgin, she is attracted to him but seems like he only wants to be friend, friendship VS attraction can disturb the formation of what might have been friendship (she confirmed there won't be a relationship at the end of the tunnel. Mulan put her cards out there but he didn't act in an appreciable proper manner, his respond made him look like a jerk - that's another tricky bit, just because they say they're virgins doesn't mean they're not emotionally complicated. Just because they're younger doesn't mean they're as open minded as you. Its always a bit better to befriend with those who connects with you rather than those who're statistically right.
Looks like the virgin is not going to be a potential friend, he could've handled things a bit better, at least they may end up becoming friends. But Mulan is now busy dating other men, for someone who gave her no respect and emotionally too different from her, likelihood of him becoming part of the group is low. And that is the true element to find new friendship.
Every week we meet someone new, though work, social events, friend's friend & etc. At the back of our head we always know what how we define friends and friendship (or potential relationship), its hard to manifest in solid terms but as we mix with people we can feel what is right. Sometime people we just don't get along, sometime people just do. If one keep her/himself open minded, respect everyone, It's a good start.
