During our teenage years, virginity is like a pop CD that you need to get rid of asap. Remember that brief encounter in the school store room; his car; single bed in his parent's house? Sluts or not, virginity was not anything in particular that you want to keep. He was not romantic, he didn't know what he was doing, but good news was, it's going to be over quickly.
As time passes we learn to make sense with the men we date, eventually we find someone that we can take the next step with. For the past generations, marriage should be the logical next step, and supposedly, stop using contraception is part of this logic, because having children should be the step after.
These days when society accepted marriage is not the only option, and children is no longer part of the set menu. Safe sex, marriage and children are now separated items, in a particular point in the relationship, most couples would stop using protection which becomes the unofficial "next step"
Had anyone thought about the risks?
Bungee Jumping is the excitement of a leap of faith that faces death and you were controlling it; meanwhile, sex without protection is like jumping without the bungee cord. Can you control pregnancy or sexually transmitted infection (STI)? With 1/3 of cases of HIV was transmitted within a supposedly monogamous relationship, is it even decent to open the unprotected sex topic?
To some people opening the unprotected sex discussion is like marriage proposal. We do not want to loose the condom easily like they did not want loose virginity before marriage generations ago. After all these years, he learnt, but does he know what he's doing? And more importantly, does he know what he's doing when he's horny and you're not around.
And, do us bitches know what we are doing? If marriage can not guarantee cheat-free; how can we protect ourselves from a heartbeak with complimentary STI. And its not going to be over quickly like your first virginity.
We are now smarter than we were in highschool. If you look at the issue from the point of view as a self respecting bitch, there must be a way that you can still make it work and practice safe sex:
The most important element in losing the 2nd virginity is the motion of taking a leap of faith in your relationship, it is putting your faith and love on the table, it is not health that you are betting on. As you are discussing not using protection, you already lost your 2nd virginity because you are considering using a large amount of faith in the relationship, it is already a strong enough proof that you are very into him. You don't have to actually go without condom to make the point.
The true moment when you loses your 2nd virginity, is when your heart is wide open, ready for someone. That does not involve STI risk, but you are willing to take a leap and risk for a heartbreak to find out what can happen next...
