During Mulan's bingo night, Wicked overheard Johnasmine spoke with RoAriel that "We don't get to catch up as much anymore." Had got Wicked thinking...
Wicked had been a busy girl, 2 jobs, social circles and career to develop upon attending events and scenes. Plus dating made catching up with friends harder, it is not easy but she tries to make an effort to see her friends.
John-asmine raised a very valid point that since everyone are very busy for their own thing, it is not a bad idea to catch up as a big group, at least you got a load-down of everyone's life. Wicked partially agree, but found it is weird that when she was sitting in a large group and wasn't sure which way to turn her head.
Wicked love her bitches, everyone is important to her and she knows the bitches think the same way too. But sometimes, she can't help to want to talk to Mulan or Caurora first, they knew her for the longest, which made her to feel comfortable for certain subjects.
It is about the space between people, too much space is not a good thing between friends, but having no space is nothing good either. The group was initially 5 bitches, but their lives evolves the family extends into partners and common friends, it is great to have a night out with 17 friends, but from time to time, a sweet little catch up of 2s or 3s to go into deeper issue in our lives: Careers that over-stresses or men that really disappoints, history and lessons to learn... It is great that our stories are evolving, and it is nice to have the "load-down" about your friends, but only a concentrated dose of friendship and make you feel genuine and feel good about yourself and your friends.
It is not about keeping secrets like tacky teen dramas, it is about being able to explore things in detail; for the person who shares to feel comfortable about opening up - is it easy when you have to repeat your story to 15 other people while you know you are yet to be able to trust some of them?
Meanwhile Caurora have too much space between herself and Mulan, after moving in together, Mulan can not help to feel that their friendship changes that they rarely see each other, although under the same roof their unusual work hours limited their time with each other. Sometime it is a question that are they making an effort to each other? Sometime it is making an effort to catch on with each other before the close friendship become mere flatmates. Just like the big group of 17 friends, making an effort to pay attention to details not just to skim through a "load down".
What is important is the effort we make for each other, and the time we spend on the load-downs plus the time we spend on more detailed personal things. If you're in a big group you can not help to abbreviate so everyone have a chance to speak; if you're living together you can't help to think you can catch them any time - but be careful that you might had pushed your friends to the end of your list unintentionally. When forgetting the important and deeper part of the friendship, the friendship is at risk of fading away...
And that's why, time is murderer (previous episode)
