There are more than enough Facebook or Cosmo quizzes that helps us when we're trying to find ourselves. "When will I get married?" "What is your real personality?" "What sex toy represents you?" "What is your porn star name?"... A series of questions from someone else's experience, mostly (and overly) personal and subjective, we allow ourselves to believe, or make believe, or pick-and-choose to believe and predict our futures upon them. Let's be honest, can we borrow other people's experiences? even if they're professionally made, experiences should be only lived by oneself. Why relying on what other people says to build yourself.
When Brothers Grimm published their collection of fairytale. They might've only thought of the commercial capacity or fulfilling their life long dreams, who would've fucking knew those little stories had mounted into the brains of a large proportion of the civilised world? Happy ending may become something to look forward to when we were little; but after living for over 25 years, we know its not that easy.
What is happy ending anyway?
If you die right after you know that you're truly happy - that doesn't sound too "happy ending" after all. And most people treat their wedding day as their "happy ending". Really?
When people in the 20s witnessing their friends lining up to get married, it is hard to shake the feeling that if you don't do it soon, you'd miss the boat, for that I blame Brother Grimms - telling all these stories with men on horses marrying younger women after a bit of infatuation... Come on!
Remember the tattoo or the pot that you were thinking about because everybody else did? Remember the 21st birthday that you overspent yourself and your friends which eaten up your entire saving from working as an underpaid teenage worker?
People were bounded to believe that things should go a certain way, always saying "its natural" to do this and do that, why 21? why not 22? why marriage ceremony? So many people focused themselves on all the schedules which made us forget the most important thing after all - love. Did those people came to your 21st still there 5 years down the track? Did those sales people at the bridal shop care more about your marriage than making sure you paid-in-full?
In order to establish their "Happy Ending", lots of couples had paid more than they can afford - and when they return from their honeymoon they begin their relationship with financial debt which may last longer than the marriage. It sounded more like "Paying More Ever After" than "Happily Ever After"
Come to think about it, is the expensive ceremony more important than the very moment that you realise you're actually in love? or the moment you realise you want to work hard to make sure both of you are happy. Is the shouting off the roof that important? And does that shout (eg. wedding or moving in) sound like a "happy ending" to you?
Instead of trying to announce "my happy ending" to everyone which cost so much money and time and stress which possibly make you feeling less than happy. Why marriage always being branded as the gateway of "Happy Ending"?
This world is complicated, the truth is you experienced "happy ending" before you decided you want to get married - it is that special moment when you know he's the one for you, or any other special moment in your relationship that can be preserved for eternity. Yes, life goes on after those moments, but we would know they are real, and the memories will stay with you after you finish paying your bills.
In this case, you can have your happy ending in multiples, like orgasms, if you're lucky.
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