Time flys when you are happy, I intruded a friend's place and watched Margaret Cho on DVD. She is so amazing and truthful, I wish I can become her one day. I enjoyed her show so much that I had almost forgotten about my other friend's new found relationship: This friend is a creative man with a lot to offer, time after time I had seen him with insincere people whom I would loosely term "friend", but this time, a optimist part of me is saying: it may be for real. This new boyfriend is gental and loving, and open minded as I surfaced my inner-Margaret-Cho the first time I had met him, and did not scare him away.
I would like to wish them both well, and I think they can hangon for their post-honeymoon.
Yes, Post-honeymoon period, the trick of mother nature where when there are ups, there will be downs [Damn you mother nature bitch!]. Every couple has their bloom period that he will call you every other minutes, cherishing every words you says, and manage to cum times and times after...... All these excitements would make you feel like you are the only 2 people on Earth, technically saying he's a stalker but you are enjoying it, and you allow yourself to emotionally build a nest around the 2 of you and merge your souls into one, nothing's better than that! [Hey I may be single by choice, I still love to have a relationship one day]. But then eventually, your conscicouns resurfaces and finding everything is repulsive and needs adjustment, we then certify the death of the bloom and hopefully the flowers are going to stay alive so none of your friends, whom you had banished outside your nest, will have to give you ametuer therapy after your break up.
The tricky part to keep your relationship when post-honeymoon strikes is once you reached to a point that the meat ain't fresh anymore, try to pour as much preservant as possible to make it plastic: try to be smart with adjustments and ask yourself : do you want to try to make it work. At this point some bitchy sceptic spoof will say things like: when there are comprimises there is no real love. That I do not agree, I will slightly adjust my schedule but will slap his face if he ask me to give up my friends! ground rules and basic beliefs are not to be altered, if you allow yourself to change the big things you are in bigger trouble than Nicole Ritchie and her weight. If after these adjustments you realise you can still be with this man, congrats! you made it thru your post-honeymoon. Most people use a child or a dog to keep themselves grounded, but eventually you would send the child to the pound and fly your dog to boarding school, Do you think its healthy? There are too many kids at RSPCA.
In my opinion, if it works, it works; if it doesn't, trying too hard will only cost on mental health.... Trying too hard to think can damage too, look at how fucked I turn out to be.
