Last night I went out for a movie with a very good friend of mine, interestingly the idea of exoticism had been brought up. The main character in the movie is an Indian guy, during his university years he dated this blond American girl whom he broken up with after his father passed away. The blond girl was not much of the movie so we didn't see much of her, but me and my friend did spent quite a bit of time discussing that part of the story: My friend don't like her because he think she is the typical "exoticist": a person who simply exploit the other culture for the sake of being special, for example, dating outside your own race, Gwen Stafeni's music clips.....
I dated a few different races before, my most bizzare experience was a guy whom had a fetish for very strong Asian accents, but most of the people I had dated are scattered between the line of exploitation and geniune attraction.
It is true that some people are obsessed with ideas outside their ethicity because they wanted to be "outside the box" or "fashionable".
When it comes to love, how can we differentiate between them away from the geniune love? Words like "I Love You"? The phrase basically means nothing these days; How about the person's dating history? Its not a job interview, there's no need for a resume.
At this point I think confidence can be the differentiating point of exorticism and genuine love: If a person who is confident enough to acknowledge him/herselves, they will be able to navigate themselves in this world, and I guess only someone who is geniunly confident with themselves would usually attract and then develop with the type of people whom they are eyeing for......
Warning! There's a fine line between Confidence and arrgoant.
Gees! I'm making this sounds like a business plan.... no wonder i'm alone
