I had caught up with a dear friend yesterday, she couldn't make it to mardi gras the weekend before because she was at a hen's party, for a straight girls (in a relationship or not), hen's party is much of a pressure. I personally think this is just a train of trend that people felt like they have to go along : school, university, graduation, work, get married in your 20s, have kids asap, and you should be able to pay off your mortgage by retirement.... Unless something falls apart along the way, which is not impossible, say that i am sceptic, but i believe things fall apart only because they're not meant to be, or not yet to be. If people can choose to take a few years off before uni, the only thing that they'd have to bear is the "Mature Age Student" tag and perhaps look older than everyone else, but you will receive the same amount of education and your mind will be more equipped, maybe that's why there're more mature age students now.
My point is, if people can choose to take university at the time that they think is right for them (or not attending university at all). Why can't we apply that to a relationship? I told my friend what I think about marriage: my definition of marriage is when 2 people are ready to be exclusive to each other sexually; both financially independent and have separate and solid career that they feel comfortable and safe about; spiritually connected so they can feel each other's thought like they're psychics ; and also some small interactive things that only the couple knows. I hate economics but I need to use those terms again: If an investment doesn't worth the risk, why invest the whole pile of money on it? Of ocurse you will meet a lot of people that you are attracted to, but why over-gambling for someone with only a nice smile, good brain, hot body or a well-paid job, when you can just enjoy your time with those smile, brain, body and.... (well you can't share the job), live your life and see what is out there, when you find someone worth going for, take the slow lane and see if this person fits, no one would arrest you if you are not hitched before you turn 30. If someone look at me with pityful eyes just because I am not married in my 20s, I will give them my pityful eyes and sympathy from the bottom of my heart, because they just don't know how big the world is out there.... I rather graduate as a "Mature Age student" in the University of Relationship instead of falling from the fast track I-don't-know-what-I'm-really-looking-for-ville.
